Another of the unwritten rules here on the Street is that a girl is not supposed to comment on the sexual performance of a man after a session. And if she has to then it has to be in a positive casual manner and not patronizing or negative. Patronizing in the sense of telling a man " You should have thrust a little fast" or other such statements that act to guide. Negative of course like it happened in Episode 1: I Cant Feel Your Thing.
The easiest thing for me to do after sex is be all praises about a man's performance. But many men know of their true sexual ranking and if I am all praise it would sound bad, like excess flattery does. So the best option is to sigh after the act, smile coyly and run my fingers on the man's chest. On the other hand there are men who want to know their real score. They will ask me straight to the face where lays their performance on some undefined sexual performance scale. " You are better than some men I know". I answer them. Some will admit to being poor in bed with sentences like " I can't last more than a few minutes, I don't know why". In such circumstances I try to encourage the man by relating him to others just like in the previous case. " Don't worry there are many men like you" .I say . "You are not even the worst" . A feel good statement which gives a man the impression he is not the odd one out, but does not actually solve his problem.
There are men who tell me of their sexual challenges and seek my advice. Sure from my experience there are things I could say or tips I could give, but I try not to, because when I do they hang to every of my words like I am sort of a guru. They develop an emotional connection to me, some want to be emotionally babied while others want us to meet more often to narrate their progress after following my advice, or just pour their hearts out. Yet some I never want to see again, because they have bigger emotional issues than I can stomach.
Talking of pouring out the heart, often I meet men who tell me their problems beginning with the words "I have never said this to anyone else...". It is easier for a man to talk to our kind since he believes that we may never rise from our present social level to his and so we may never interact socially . And supposedly being at the bottom of the social and moral hierarchy we can never be judgmental. Its certain too we wouldn't go yapping to his friends like the rest of the people he opens up are likely to. A human and better version of the anonymity of the internet.
It is difficult to separate my sex satisfaction and listening cum emotional role. The problem is that I can only charge for the sex, while sometimes I end up spending more time, thought and energy listening and counseling. Ironically it would not be the same if say I quit the Street and opened a practice to do the same kind of sexual listening and counseling. If I did, no one would come, its tied to my job on the Street. Its the informality, no shame, no judgment, straight talk that encourages men to open up sexually like they never do with anyone else. All that would be lost if there was an office and a business name.
But there are instances when I offer unsolicited advise to men. When what they do bothers me. Like I will always have something to say to men who fake orgasm. Yes there are men who fake and of late they are many. I still don't get why a man should fake, at least when with me. A man faking is ridiculous. Giving that sound then quickly removing the condom. Men who fake have other issues that make them not go all the way when they are inside a woman. These are men who will go soft immediately they are in. Among other things I tell them to go easy on their fantasies, porn and self pleasing.
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